Forgiving Others

Welcome to threads of enlightenment. Forgiving others. Forgiveness is one of the principles of personal growth; thank you so much for joining me to continue our conversation about the process of personal growth and to learn how to become the masters of ourselves.

In the last blog, I spoke about Unchecked emotions. I use that title for a chapter because we tend to not truly be aware of what emotions are in the sense of how they cause us to be controlled by what I call states. States are where we make decisions that cause much harm and pain. Unchecked emotions will lead us to enter into a state of hatefulness. And it has caused us to become stuck in states that are harmful to our spirit, soul, and bodies.

I want to focus a little on forgiving, forgiveness, or forgiving others. In chapter four in my book, “Threads of Enlightenment,” I discuss this in debt. I look at it more like a manual for you to take a look at and identify where you’re located, what state you currently live, in what state you’re in mentally, spiritually, and physically reside at the moment to decide to move forward. Hopefully, it can guide you to the places you need to go to become a mature human spirit.

We must learn these principles because each one of these takes us to another level of our development. “Learn to let go; It is the beginning of your beginnings.” It is entirely our responsibility to desire our deliverance from pain, and the same old same old we have to take responsibility after someone has committed erroneous actions against us. We have to come to a place where we take responsibility for our lives to put it back to, to now recreate something new, something stronger, something wiser, something not as weak and defeated.

The principle of forgiving others takes away the power that they have over us for so long. I suggest that if you have kids, you need to grab that book because it has some wonderful nuggets in there for us. He talks about how forgiveness is essential for growth and healing, and that is why we need to forgive. Forgiveness is essential for our growth and healing; we have to take back our authority, power from those that stripped it away from us through whatever hateful behavior, whatever they’ve done to us.

Many of you have gone through horrific situations in your life. I know my rejection came from family, from my parents. And so, I had to learn how to push through that. I’d mentioned briefly that, as a young adult in college. The memory of that pain will come, and I would cry as, as a young man, I would find a place to hide and to go through that emotional pain and to begin to figure out a way how to manage it. We must remember and realized that it is our responsibility to what is necessary to change. “Change is not changing until you’ve changed,”

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Unchecked Emotions

Welcome to threads of enlightenment—unchecked emotions. We have suffered some trauma that has caused us to act and live a certain way. As a young boy who grew up in Guyana, I had an incident in my life that caused much pain and much hurt. As a result, I made decisions from that state that govern my entire life and relationships, decisions that were not good for my life in any fashion but self-preservation. I was holding it together until the memory of day would come rushing into the forefront of my mind; at that point, everything would fall apart. This is not uncommon; many of you have the same experience as I; the only difference was the pain caused by the situation.

I know this is one thing; as human beings, we have to deal with all of these emotions, we refer to these as our demons, and in some ways, that’s absolutely what those Unchecked Emotions are. In my case, my demons would appear to me suddenly while I was in college. The memories, for some reason, kept coming frequently. Looking back, I can clearly see that it was my time to deal with or face my demons.

I was being forced to deal with the hopelessness, the shame, the pain, the feeling of loneliness, the hate, the unforgiveness all because of a decision someone had made to treat me as a child, as a grown man, my memories of that incident would send me in a panic. I would look for an area to hide, somewhere, anywhere, to find a way to deal with these overwhelming emotions. I would cry and cry and cry because it was so overpowering.

If our emotions go unchecked, it becomes potent and dangerous; in some cases, people take their own life as a result. It is very, very serious and necessary to face your demons and learn how to conquer them all first for your sake, your families, and friends. If we do not take this seriously, we will not pursue any peace and happiness. Let me be obvious it is a tremendous battle to fight and claim your own identity once you’ve been damage. It’s a battle for your survival as an individual for your spirit, your soul, which consists of your mind and emotions, to heal to deal with your situation. And so many of us have not dealt with it, and we have brought husbands, wives, and children. We bring them into our situation, and we respond to them through our pain and hurt; as a result, we damage our mate and children and continue that process in our families from generation to generation.

Anger was one of the demons that I had to deal with as an individual, and I learned how to master it. I had to develop a strategy to learn how to exercise them out of my life to become more effective as human spirits to continue to grow and become who I was originally intended to become by the creator. I love reading Buddha’s little instruction by Jack Cornfield to my children when they were little kids; as much as it was for them, I was learning along with them. He makes a statement that has helped both my children and me “the spirit of man is like a garden. It can grow love; it can grow bitterness, fear, or faith. What seeds will you plant there?” Our parents or whoever caused us that trauma at some point must decide that we have to deal with those issues to move on. We must begin to plant seeds that we want into our garden so that they may bear the fruit that we want.

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Solitude

Welcome to threads of enlightenment. Solitude. When I say the word solitude, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? A lot of people, the first thought is a cabin in the woods, others being on a mountain somewhere unreachable, other in a tent camping, others by water on a beach somewhere. But solitude is more importantly about communing with yourself, searching the innermost parts of your spirit and soul. I want to introduce you to one of the great mysteries available to every one of us, but most people are terrified to start practicing the art of meditation. People all around us move and operate using mediation. People like martial artists, athletes, yoga practitioners, yogi, and of course, the sages of old. Personally, I’ve been doing meditation for over 20 years. When I first started how confusing it was for me, I’ve learned to love my solitude time. I love the fact that I have learned to enjoy my time. It’s a place of much self-infliction and reflection, looking at myself, looking hard, and being honest at some of the dark places that are in me, the dark things, the dark places I’m talking about are my attitudes, my behavior, some of the habits, those dark habits that you and I have, practice for so many years.

In our Western culture, many people are afraid of being alone or meditating; they really are; some people can’t seem to disconnect from their phones, TVs, or even from people as well. You know the type; they have to be around people all the time. Most of them are afraid of being by themselves, and they don’t understand that; that’s the place where you obtain your victory, that’s where you become a better listener, lots of people don’t understand that meditation helps to learn to listen, especially listening to the inner self.

Listening to that spirit man that has been inundated with false information within you caused by circumstances of life, circumstances at work, our relationships with loves ones, friends, your TV, your phone that you carry with you now that it gives you access to everything such as social media and you can go on and on and on. Studies now show that people are mentally, psychologically, and emotionally all of these things we are getting hooked on. The new drugs, the new high, and people go through serious withdrawals; if you take their phones away from them, they will lose their minds.

In some cases, who knows, they would probably harm you. Today, one of the things that parents will do to punish a kid or a child is to take their phones away, and you could see how depressed they get and begin to start behaving outlandishly.

We need solitude to learn; it is the missing ingredient; we need to learn to include meditation in our quiver to begin our journey to become a better individual, a stronger person, one that you’re proud of. You need to understand how special you are, how you’re one of a kind on this planet. When I started my journey, I kept telling people I had to learn how special I was. I’d walk around and, and tell people that I am one of a kind, I am an endangered species, and I’m an endangered species; I became mindful of how I allowed people to speak to me, how I allowed, um, friends, families, uh, everyone, my boss, how I allow people to engage with me, I became a guardian because I didn’t want them to damage my soul and spirit. I understood that they could cause me much pain in whatever form comes emotional, physical, or whatever. So as you begin to learn the value of who you are, as we take this journey, at threads of enlightenment, the process in which one becomes a better human spirit.

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Self Love

Welcome to threads of enlightenment—self-love. We’re going to look at what I call the first aspect or the first space that you and individuals need to visit to begin our journey to self-development. How many people have lived their lives and have never, ever, ever, ever, ever, had taken the responsibility of self-development seriously enough for a chance to truly learn to ever love themselves to begin their journey? And it is a wonderful journey.
I hope that each of you who visit this site and listen to the podcast would endeavor to start that type of journey where you get a chance to find out who you are. A good friend and I went to see the Dalai Lama several years ago. They had a question and answered time at the event, and someone stood up and asks him, “what is the key to life.” I believe he gave one of the most thoughtful answers I’ve ever heard in my entire life. He said I don’t know. He then said the question you need to ask yourself is, “what’s the key to your life.” Such a more profound question that you and I need to know the answer to. He went on to say that we have to find that out ourselves. That’s an individual journey and, you need to take that journey and find out. I desire that as we get together and spend time reading and listening, and growing that we would begin to start that journey to find out who we are.
It doesn’t matter what religion or belief system you’re a part of; if you’re interested in personal growth, I believe that you must visit every state mention in the book that I co-author with Redhe Schiff. Those states are the book chapters, such as Self-love, Unchecked Emotions, Forgiving Others, just to name a few.
We’re going to take a look at every one of them, and globally also we would look and bring in insights from other teachers that are a part of the self-help, self-development, personal growth industry. I love to recommend books and read books. I look at reading a book as my private meeting with that author. Reading is my time to understand what they went through and the wisdom they gained through their situations. Reading and listening to the author is our chance to take our responsibility to get wisdom and understanding and use it to free ourselves from our situations. As we dig into self-help, we get a chance to expose some things about ourselves that we’ve accepted into our souls and now have become part of our belief system.
And the belief system is a gift that is given to every single human being everyone. The process is simply the ability to take in information, and that information lodges into our soul and migrates into our spirit and body. It becomes a part of our lifestyle that we act on that belief day after day, month after month, year after year. I mentioned to you before that it all started with words spoken by someone you allowed in by allowing a thought to bear fruit. Jesus said to his disciples, take no thoughts saying, and that principle is, once someone says something to you, that you would take this thought into your being, you would then accept it, then confess it, and then you would act on that confession, and then it manifests and bear fruit.
People, you’re going to have to learn, when someone says something that is out of line with your belief system and character, that would naturally get you upset, don’t let it, take a breath and respond out of a different space other than anger and, verbally abuse that person. My goal is that we would learn to guard our thoughts. So how do you find self-love? this is how you find self-love “you dig, you isolate, and you ache, you ate from being lonely, you heal, you accept, you, look in the mirror and see God” that is self-love, and self-love is simply a journey.


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Principles of Self Development

My goal is to walk in the principles of self-development that we would look to no other. Still, to help us grow and change our lives in this current time that we have with the pandemic and all the uncertainties that are out there in the world today, we need to look to ourselves to gain answers to better our self-development.

It’s our responsibility when we’re born until the time we die first to develop ourselves. Most of us are trapped due to whatever information was deposited in us by our grandparents, parents, teachers, friends, your college, professors, the church, society as a whole all of these entities would have some input and or influences on your development. Based on the type of input that each of these groups deposited into you, your belief system would be formed and set to live a certain way. It becomes our responsibility to navigate all of these to find out who we truly are—the REAL YOU.

Things that people said to us as we were growing up, and we’re coming into our own, as they say, our parents and grandparents, the ones closest to us, have the most influence upon us. They deposit their belief into us and, in most cases, their lack of understanding of who they are and how they play a part in our soul development. Most of our family members have their demons to deal with; none of them really learned how to conquer or rise above the family curses. The bible calls it the “Sins of the Father.” Many of them usually say things from a place of ignorance, words that do and definitely will hurt you and cause you much pain and cause your emotions such as pain and hurt to lead you into a state of depression, resentment, and even hate.

From these states, we believe and live from a place of low self-esteem. Usually, we tend to internalize all the words that our parents, grandparents, etc. These are just some of the things that they say to us, “you will grow up to be nothing,” you are not smart, you’re an idiot, you’re so dumb, or stupid. Some of us are lucky to have parents that tell us that we can do anything, we can be a CEO, Doctor, they tell us that we can do anything we put our minds to which we can. Once we believe this, we usually achieve it because that’s how the soul and human spirit were designed to work. There’s a scripture in the Bible that says “that all things are possible to the believing man.” So then the onus and the responsibility are on us and what we do with that belief system.

And that is the key to how our personal growth is developed through our belief system, what was and have been deposited in that belief system, whether as I mentioned, our parents, teachers, or society, whatever was deposited either positive or negative in that belief system will then manifest. This process starts from your thoughts; your thoughts become your speech, and whatever you begin to confess will become things that you will believe. And then, once you believe it, you begin to act on it, and it bears fruit.

I intend to learn to lean on each other and guide each other with the wisdom, insights, and understanding that you have gained in your life and the same that I’ve gained in mine and that we can encourage each other at this crucial time in our society. As humans, we tend to begin our journey of self-development while going through something dramatic.

I was about 35 years old when I went through my divorce. And one of the things that I learned in that journey was that I had to learn to embrace the darkness. “Embrace the moment of darkness because it is in the darkness that we learn to develop and use our ability to truly see those parts of ourselves often invisible to us in the light” There’s a lot that is packed into that, many years of pain, produced that revelation.

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